Ever wondered why when us chicks go out in a group we ALWAYS, without fail, seem to come across a group of guys who, for some bizaar reason,don't have the balls(or intellectual communication skills..) to just come up to us and start a conversation??
I mean, seriously now, what sense does it make to just stand all the way in the corner, in a brooding bundle like the crew from "Revenge of the Nerds" or something, and just STARE...dead wood, I tell you.
Now this very scenario occurred one Saturday night at "The Den"...Myself and Taz decided that the night before"s(abhorrable) partying was definately not enough for the weekend, although I can tell you now that my head(and liver!) disagreed strongly.We picked Cat up after Taz's date with "Mr.Nice-Guy" and I could tell that there was debauchery of note waiting for us.Firstly, Taz had been complaining since earlier that day about how bored she was...now, don't get me wrong, she enjoyed the date...but alas...us females all fall prey to the lure of the Bad Boy and this my dears was not one.This made me think of how all of us have the opportunity and the means to nab ourselves good, wholesome guys, we just CHOOSE not to.Case in point,Taz..this guy had been falling over his feet for her all day, I mean,who wouldn't, this is a gorgeous woman with a heart of gold.But the minute she was "rid"(as she so bluntly put it!) of him,she had this look of relief on her face.."Woo-Hoo" she howled.."Let's get this party started!!!"..I was speechless.A position I am rarely in but at that moment it clicked to me.This is what every so-called "Nice Guy" complains about..the proverbial lure of the "Dark Boy" is way too strong.It's as if we don't appreciate the um NICENESS of the "Nice Guy"..Nice guys finish last they say, Im sorry, but er...did the "Nice Guy" even register to enter the race???
It's not that we don't appreciate guys who treat us well and who are polite, well-mannered, *yaawn*..sorry, where was I...? Oh, yeah.It's just that,you know if we say "Jump" and you ask "How high?" when and where does the challenge fit into this Jigsaw puzzle people call "relationships"? Women today don't want things too easy, personally I find it extremely dull if a guy just agrees with whatever I say, I mean..If I wanted to date an amoeba I would go down to the Great Brak River and find myself one.A nice fat one...But we don't want single celled organisms as boyfriends,bio lab's closed.
Respect also has alot to do with this analogy.I simply will not respect a man who does not and CANNOT stand his own ground.That's impossible.Last time I checked doormats only had one function...to take the dirt off your feet.
So it's not to say that we want guys who don't mind giving us a little slap or two every now and then..(ok,um..in SOME cases/settings it would work!),we need for the male of the species to stand their ground.Simple as that.And where the "excitement" thing is concerned,spontaneity is key..oh and not forgetting enthusiasm.Which brings me to that night again..
So we're at "The Den" and it's pumping and full of familiar faces...Im still feeling disorientated from the night before, in fact, I can still taste the Cuervo and I wasn't loving it.We feel our way through the crowd and then a drink or two later we were somewhat more relaxed.
I could tell Cat was on a mission..in fact, I think she might've mentioned what her Modus Operandi would be for the night, I encouraged her but hoped to be left out of that particular equation as being around guys was the LAST thing on my mind at the time,heaven forbid CHAT to them..no thanks.No matter how much she persisted, and how much she tried to persuade me to be her wing-girl, that was not my steez that night.This is not to say that I completely ignored the fact that the place had talent that night...coz geez did the place have TALENT.Of colossal proportions!
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